In a horror movie, you often see someone terrified and running away from the psycho-killer-maniac, while inexplicably looking backward more than looking forward. And you know what happens next. Trip. Fall. Dead.
Do you remember learning to drive? I do. It was about 30 years ago. Long before I even knew what “fitness” even was or thought much about. My driving instructor taught me something back then that resurfaced in my mind pertaining to fitness many years later. “Don’t look at the pothole or you will steer right into it.” What you look at while driving is where you will subtly steer the car. In motivational circles, they phrase it this way: “Energy flows where your attention goes.”
This idea that what you put your focus on is all you see is certainly true in the world of fitness. I’ve talked to countless people about fitness and any time the focus is intensely and exclusively on the obstacles, that is where the energy goes. An obstacle focus means no energy or ideas are going to solutions or finding opportunities around the obstacles.
What is your “can’t?” It’s the reason you tell yourself you can’t exercise/get in shape/eat healthy/etc. There are endless varieties of “can’t” available to you. Over a 20-year fitness career, I’ve heard heaps of them, but I still hear new ones all the time.
When you complain incessantly about the reason you can’t exercise, you eliminate your ability to see what you can do. I’ve known busy people who have had success with exercise, and I’ve known people who are far less busy who have not had success. Almost always the key difference is in the mindset and the perspective each has regarding life’s challenges.
If we want there to be reasons why we can’t exercise or eat healthy, we will always find them.
Here is a common list of “can’ts,” and tips on how to shift perspectives are shown in parentheses.