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18" - The Difference Between Success

Mar 22, 2012

I heard a quote a few weeks ago from a pastor friend and client of mine, Gino Mingo. We were doing a Bible study with our NFL Combine guys when he said, "The difference between heaven and hell is 18 inches. That's the distance between your head and your heart." Deep stuff. Great stuff.

I spoke with Gino afterwards and said it's no different than success or failure in life. 18 inches. The distance between getting "your mind right" and getting your heart right. Whether it's business, sports, family, relationships, career, or just life, you have to have your heart and your head in the right place. And you must be deeply committed to both. And that's not always easy.

What about you? Are you all-in? Are you fully committed?

There are lots of times when you struggle to get your mind right. When you just can't get your HEAD around what you're doing. Fear. Self-doubt. Procrastination. Bad environment. Something's holding you back.

Or have there been times when your HEART has just not been fully committed? No passion. No energy. No love. No spirit. No nothing.

Each one of us knows deep inside that great things don't happen at half-throttle. Life is way too short to not have your mind and your heart fully committed. It's time to live life to the fullest, and if something has to change, TODAY is the day.

Check out some of the BEST ways to "Get your MIND right":

  • Avoid negative self-talk. Wear a rubber band or "IMPACT" bracelet around your wrist and flick it when a negative thought comes to mind (Thank you Dr. Jack Singer). Banish negativity!!!
  • Drive a positive attitude. Be proactive with positive energy. Seek it out with regular course corrections... take the "flick on the wrist" a step further and replace the negative thought with something positive. Remind yourself: You are 1% better everyday!!!
  • Conquer FEAR. Fear is "false expectations appearing real." Fear is poison. Say "YES" more often to things that once scared you (And those that still do!). Take ACTION on the things that scare you the most. Face your fears. Conquer them. Remove them from your life.
  • Surround yourself with positive people. The most successful people have an inner circle that empowers them, inspires them, supports their character, encourages them through the wins and the losses, and reminds them who they really are! Choose your friends and acquaintances carefully.
  • Eliminate garbage. Garbage in--garbage out. Everyday we have a million media choices available to us. Be careful what you take in... it might be polluting your mind.
  • Write. In my book, I shared a "decree statement" exercise in which you write about your life purpose. The only difference is that you write as if it's 5 years from now and you years from now and you have succeeded. Try this yourself. Writing is powerful and one of the greatest tools to help you get and keep your mind right.

... And your HEART:

  • Commit. What do you love to do? When you can't truly commit in your work life, it might be because you aren't in the right place doing the right thing. So, if you don't love what you are doing, move on. Passion breeds passion. No doubt, personal relationships are more complicated. Nothing in life deserves more attention, more patience, more forgiveness, and more HEART than your relationships because you get what you give. Before you can commit, you gotta show up.
  • Write in a gratitude journal. Yes, more writing. Gratitude fills the heart and makes it stronger. It allows you to live with more compassion and to be truly thankful for all that you DO have. Write down 10 things you are thankful for every night and watch how this simple task improves your sleep and your attitude.
  • Quiet time and prayer. Nothing replaces the power of prayer. Take 10 minutes a day (minimum) to pray, to have quiet time, or to meditate. I love to do this early in the morning. But the bottom line is: DO IT and put your inner life in balance. Try it for 10 days and see the difference. Try it for 30 days and you'll be a new person.
  • Music. Music moves the soul. Create an inspirational play list of your top tunes and listen early in the morning, during a workout, or when you need a shot of inspiration.

So, what's holding you back? What needs to change? What's the one thing you can start doing today that will get you kicked into gear with the full-throttle power you need to succeed?

Remember, it's only 18 inches, but it's the difference between success and failure. Heaven and hell. Because if you really want something, you've got to go all in.
Head and heart. It's all or nothing at all.

About Todd Durkin

Todd Durkin, MA, CSCS, is an internationally recognized performance-enhancement coach, personal trainer, massage therapist, author, and speaker who motivates, educates and inspires people worldwide. He is the founder and creator of Fitness Quest 10 & Todd Durkin Enterprises in San Diego, CA, where his wonderful team focuses on personal training, massage therapy, Pilates, yoga, sports performance training, nutrition, physical therapy, and chiropractic to help transform the bodies, minds and spirits of a broad clientele. He is a 2 Time Personal Trainer of the Year (IDEA & ACE) and has received numerous industry accolades.

Todd trains dozens of NFL and MLB athletes, including Super Bowl XLIV MVP Drew Brees, Super Bowl XLV Aaron Rodgers, former NFL MVP LaDainian Tomlinson, and athletes such as Kellen Winslow, Shawne Merriman, and a host of others. He currently works with 9 NFL quarterbacks. Additionally, he has trained one Olympic Gold Medalist, an MLB Champion & MVP, two X-Games Gold medalists, 2 Heisman trophy winners, and tens of thousands of other elite and amateur athletes as well as fitness enthusiasts.

Additionally, Todd is the Head of the Under Armour Performance Training Council, where he helps drive new methodologies and training techniques to help Under Armour develop the highest quality programs and apparel for performance training. He has appeared on national television commercials with Under Armour, is a major part of the “Combine 360” program, and speaks at regular events such as the NFL Combine, Super Bowl, and Pro Bowl on their behalf.

Men’s Health recently named his gym, Fitness Quest 10, one of the Top 10 Gyms in the US. Todd has appeared on 60 Minutes, ESPN, the NFL Network and has been featured in Sports Illustrated, USA Today, STACK Magazine, Business Week, Prevention, ESPN the Magazine, Men’s Health, and countless other media outlets. Todd has authored 35 DVDs on strength and conditioning, functional fitness, massage/bodywork and business/personal growth.

Todd and his staff provide motivational and educational programs and team-building events to companies and conferences worldwide. For more information on any of his programs or to sign up for Todd’s FREE award-winning Ezine newsletter, the TD TIMES, you can contact him below.

Todd earned his BS degree in Kinesiology from The College of William & Mary in Virginia and his MA degree in Exercise & Nutritional Science with a specialty in Biomechanics and Sports Medicine from San Diego State University. He and his wife Melanie reside in San Diego, CA, with their three children, Luke, Brady, and McKenna


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